VOCATIONS PANEL
"What
It Means To Live Out My Vocation"
by Deacon
Dennis Purificacion
St. John Vianney Catholic Church, Rancho Cordova, CA, USA
Monday, January
22, 2018
As a married permanent deacon, I have received both
the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony and the Sacrament of Holy Orders.
I am going on 15 years of marriage and 4 years of diaconate
ordination. I am the father of 5
children, and my wife is pregnant with our 6th child.
The diaconate enriches my marriage, and marriage and
family life enriches the diaconate. Both
sacraments have been mutually beneficial to each other. They are strengthened by each other.
When reflecting on what it means to be a married permanent
deacon, my thoughts first turn to my wife and kids. As we were told during diaconate formation,
there is an order of priority where time and energy are placed:
First, God.
Second, marriage and family.
Third, work (to support the family).
And fourth, being a deacon in the parish. One cannot stand before the parish as a
married deacon if one’s marriage and family is in a wreck.
This is why in a certain sense the deacon’s
wife is the deacon’s “first bishop” because the deacon must learn how to love
and honor his wife even before learning how to love and honor the bishop after
ordination as a deacon. The deacon’s
wife is vital to his vocation. She
sanctifies him and vice versa.
Both sacraments are meant for the service and
sanctification of others.
In matrimony, I am called to give my life to the woman
for whom I have taken a vow until death.
My wife, Tove Ann, likewise strengthens my life in the permanent
diaconate. As St. Paul said, the love of
husband and wife reflects the love of Christ for His Church which is his Bride
and Body. Married men are called to love
their wives as Christ did, and the Church is called in turn to lay down her life
for Christ. It is in marriage that I
live out the universal call to holiness called forth by the Second Vatican
Council.
In the diaconate, I give myself in service not after
Christ the Priest but after Christ the Servant.
Deacons are not ordained to the priesthood but unto the ministry of
charity, especially the most neglected of our society, and to assist the
bishops and priests in their vocation to teach, govern and sanctify God’s holy
people, the Church. The diaconate
reminds those in the Church that we are all called to serve and minister to
others, just as Jesus Christ laid down His life on the Cross.
The first married permanent deacon I met was when I
was in high school. His name was Deacon
Eugene O’Sullivan, an Irishman from Kansas and a nuclear engineer. He and his wife, Lois, made a great
impression on me as a teenager. I would
serve Mass with him, and I wanted to be like him. Both of them were the start of my attraction
to marriage and diaconate.
At World Youth Day 1993 in Denver, seeing Pope St.
John Paul the Great reinforced my desire to serve the Church even more. The Holy Father said, “The family is under
attack!” Over the years, I would give my
life to the Church as a layman and catechist teaching the Faith, and I knew that
I wanted to be married and raise a family.
I would help protect marriage by studying and doing my
best to live the Church’s teaching on marriage and family.
For those of you who feel a vocation to Christian
married life, I encourage you to do your best to learn God’s plan for marriage
and family. Start now. It is not too late.
And for those of you who feel an attraction to the
permanent diaconate as I did, I encourage you to do your best to nurture that
and follow through with it. The
permanent diaconate was not intended only for those who are retired, but it is
meant for those with busy lives raising families.
I myself wish there were younger permanent
deacons. The average age of permanent
deacons in the Diocese of Sacrament is age 69.
So be open, and feel free to contact me for more questions.
I close with the words of St. Therese of Lisieux would
said, “My vocation is love!” No matter
how God is calling you, He calls you to love and to be saints today.
Thank you and may the Immaculate Heart of Our Lady,
the queen and mother of deacons, keep you always close to her Son! Amen.